Asking My Best Friend to Be My Baby Godmother
I'm worried equally haven't asked my all-time friend to be Godparent... please can I have your thoughts?
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Hello there,
I'm a chronic worrier so need your advice please!!
I have asked two of my very close friends to be my daughters godparents. I had a really tough pregnancy and they were so incredible then and since our baby has come and they take been my very shut friends for almost xviii years. They accept both posted it on social media today but I haven't told my best friend as to be honest... I don't know how to. She's had the worst ii years... losing 2 people extremely shut to her which has completely changed her life. So I experience absolutely awful for not request her I actually do. But I really wanted to ask these ii people as they are a huge part of my daughters life and an incredible abiding support to me and ever have been.
Please can you help me how I bring information technology up with my best friend? She's going to be upset I know it and I hate for that!
Sorry this sounds giddy... but sometimes you need an opinion from someone who doesn't know y'all 
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SwayingInTime Sabbatum 02-Jan-21 22:12:14
Well, firstly you are very lucky to have iii such wonderful friends in your life.
Personally, I would have but had 3 god mothers.
RettyPriddle Sat 02-Jan-21 22:xiii:37
There's no reason why your child can't have 3 godmothers.
Why not but accept her aswell.
JohnMiddleNameRedactedSwanson Saturday 02-Jan-21 22:xv:16
If Sleeping Dazzler had 3 Godmothers, so too can your daughter 
Do this 1000 if y'all don't have your all-time friend who has had a very hard few year would be a bit of a kick and probably the first of the end of that human relationship
If she's genuinely your best friend and you lot don't desire to make her year worse then just have her equally well.
Is there a reason you don't want to inquire her?
Agree with above- merely have 3?
My all-time friend doesn't take kids, past choice. She's non a godmother to mine because I want our human relationship to exist just us, and for her to be 'mine' she agrees and isn't fussed at all. My kids adore her, merely we tend to meet up away from them every bit she doesn't want to hang around parks etc. Hope that doesn't sound wierd, it works for usa.
Is your friend religious?
They must not demand to be baptised. My sister isn't and has 3 god children.
Thank you so much all xx
The just thing is... and again this sounds and so silly then please excuse my giddy worrying... it's but who I am 😂...
I am in 2 friendship groups.. of whom all I'm extremely close to. More similar sisters.
So the group I'one thousand in with my best friend I've asked ane from that i and of the other. If I ask her then it would be a knock on event. Hence why have stuck at only two.
We would beloved more children so am hoping she would understand. She is very open in saying how she feels so recollect she will say and retrieve she's going to be aroused.
It is admittedly cipher confronting her at all but I feel bad 
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I know how very childish all this sounds. But nosotros are really set on two women and ane homo. Then the same if we have another. All that have been asked have been baptised.
I made my two best friends godmother to my start child, and neither of them did the same for me. It hurt, a lot. Nosotros are withal super close merely information technology does make me sad. It's obviously your choice but I would have had all iii.
CassandrasCastle Sabbatum 02-Jan-21 22:23:17
Are they all baptised themselves? Maybe just accept all 3? At our church all godparents had to take been baptised. So I couldn't enquire one of my friends to be GM and she was annoyed near it, but there wasn't much I could do 
Sounds very over complicated
LoveMyKidsAndCats
They must not need to be baptised. My sister isn't and has 3 god children.
If not baptised they tin be 'supporters' of the child, participate in the baptism service, and be duplicate from godparents in well-nigh all ways, but they can't be named on the baptism certificate.
@Autumnnightsaredrawi
Deary me... I said to my hubby I shouldn't take asked anyone as I'd worry like this!! 🤦🏻♀️
@CassandrasCastle I totally concur! Lol!
I think this will be the finish of your friendship if you don't have her too.
I wasn't asked to be a bridesmaid of 2 of my best friends (we were a group of iii at the time). It really really hurt me, specially when fifty they would talk openly infront of me about how excited they were to be each others bridesmaids, really rubbing it in. One evening they did it and I cried to dp for hours.
I got over it and never said anything but I have gained a lot more self respect over the years since and still hold them both at arms length. I wouldn't let someone treat me like that now, I would walk away from the friendship and would tell a friend to do the aforementioned.
I need this honesty give thanks you so much. Xx
Is she going to see the others' social media posts? If yous are serious nearly maintaining the friendship she needs to hear this directly from y'all. Information technology will exist very hurtful to find out from social media. If you truly intend to enquire her to be a godparent to a futurity kid then you could mention this just information technology is a big commitment to brand for a child who doesn't exist yet.
I would include your BFF every bit a godparent. I retrieve you lot'll come up to regret information technology if you don't. If your local vicar isn't on board with that... You don't have to use your local church building!
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